This week, we delve deeper into some of the problems we're having. More on this after the Top 20.

Up to #1 is Last Chance by Ginuwine. Dropping to #2 is Breakup by Mario featuring Gucci Mane and Sean Garrett. Improving to #3, it's the monster dance anthem I Know You Want Me by Pitbull. Up to #4 is Successful by Drake featuring L'il Wayne. Soaring to #5 is Mary Mary with God in Me.

Climbing to #6 is Run This Town by Jay Z, Rihanna and Kanye West. Ego by Beyonce tumbles to #7. Improving to #8 and shifting gears to dance music is the cool new hit track Celebration by Madonna. Up to #9 is Obsessed by Mariah Carey. Halting its advance and slipping to #10 is Throw it in the Bag by Fabolous featuring the Dream.

Up to #11 this week is Would've Been the One by Solange, a dance hit and a former essential selection. Improving to #12 is Wasted by Gucci Mane featuring Plies or OJ Da Juiceman. Up to #13 is Under by Pleasure P. Now at #14 is Whitney Houston's Million Dollar Bill, currently atop international dance charts.

Up to # 15 is Boom Boom Pow by Black Eyed Peas, a hot pop/dance track. Improving to #16 is S.O.S. (Let the Music Play), by Jordin Sparks. Up to #17 is a previous essential new tune; Make Me by Janet Jackson. Falling to #18 is Maxwell's slow jam Pretty Wings.

Now this week's essential new tune. In at #19, it's Bad Habits by Maxwell. There are enough versions of this one to satisfy everybody. Joining the list at #20 is Release Me by Agnes.

Now back to this week's word – delving deeper into our problems. The Bermuda National Softball Team went down to Bahamas and made absolute fools of themselves and Bermuda, fighting amongst themselves and behaving so poorly that a senior Government official had to fly down there to sort out the whole mess. What nobody has picked up on is the fact that these people are mothers! And we wonder why so many of the young people are so screwed up and acting out?

Then there's the young brother shot in the car with the Kuchler sister. The girl's parents are kind, hardworking, humble, decent people who must be devastated by their little girl's predicament.

The best the media could say about the fellow was that he played for Cougars? If that is the best that can be said for him – and there may be much more to this man – it would be disappointing. Admittedly during my teens I thought it was cool to play football and cricket, have all the attention and girls and I even spent too much time cleaning my bike and picking out matching clothes to wear to games.

Thank God and my parents for sending me to university. It was there that I was exposed to a wider world beyond that limited and shallow existence, which does not lead to a successful and happy life, if that's all one does. You don't have to go away to university to have this mind opening experience but it seems to accelerate the process, especially for males. Most of our young male soccer players do not consider and are not encouraged to develop their whole self: mind, body, soul, spirit, education, career, intellectual stimulation, reading, learning about something other than football or cricket, etc. Then when they're 35 and too old to play ball, they have no career, children with three or four different women, they're not paying child support and/or have no relationship with the children and they're wondering how they got into this predicament! I played for the university's soccer team, so don't get it twisted; but I was encouraged to develop my whole self, not just my athletic self. Women used to figure this out whether they went to college or not; but the same cannot be said for the silly little girls we are producing today. They get pregnant for different guys and end up wanting Government to foot the bill, pay for the children they cannot afford, because of decisions that they, not the Government, made. How can this happen to a young lady three and four times, with a different father every time, in this era of free birth control, free access to information, etc.? This is inexcusable, stupid and unnecessary. I will accept an accident once or twice, but not three, four and five times!

The problem is that we have low expectations and low standards. For many, having a son, or a boyfriend who plays for a top soccer/cricket team is all they want and the pinnacle of accomplishment!

There is more to life than that. Do yourselves a favour and go find it. It is far more fulfilling than 90 minutes of soccer each weekend, 10 hours of cricket each Sunday and even the league championships one might win in those sports.

When you're 45, you cannot feed yourself or your three or four children by three or four different women with the proceeds (which you never see in your pocket) from a Dudley Eve Cup, Camel Cup or League Championship won when you were 25. That doesn't mean you shouldn't play sports!

Quite the contrary, sports is good for many reasons. But it mustn't define you or limit your accomplishments to a sports ground.

There is too much more to life, for the rest of your life, to not set goals beyond Bermuda, beyond your youth and beyond sports. Get a life; get an education and get a career. Peace … DJLT.