Graham Robert Stancliffe, who suffered severe burns to his legs when his ex-girlfriend set fire to his bed, admitted that he had punched and slapped her on more than one occasion.

And he admitted using a cigarette to burn her twice on the leg and urinated on her when they were in the shower together.

His ex-girlfriend, Veronica Leslene Dill, 29, of Farmstead Lane, Sandys, is charged with attempted murder, causing him grievous bodily harm with intent to burn, and arson.

Dill has admitted purchasing the petrol and pouring some of it on his bed but she said she just wanted to scare him and had no intention of hurting him. She said she had got the idea from watching a film called "The Burning Bed.'' The court heard that Dill and Stancliffe were living together at his North Shore, Pembroke, home at the time of the fire on October 13, 1993. Their relationship had deteriorated significantly to the point where she complained to friends that he treated her badly.

Stancliffe said that Dill moved in with him during the summer of 1993 and lived with him continuously until the incident.

He testified for the majority of the trial's second day on Tuesday. He said he feared Dill because she had threatened to "Bobbitt'' him on a few occasions which he believed meant she wanted to cut off his penis.

Although he admitted punching and slapping her, he said he did not consider it abuse at the time although he did now.

However he said Dill was far from an innocent party because she had attacked him as well.

Stancliffe steadfastly denied defence suggestions that he pushed an eight inch candle up Dill's vagina during a love-making session.

But he said they would use candles and vibrators during foreplay and he even tied her up once.

He maintained that it was all consensual. Stancliffe said that they tried anal intercourse once but she screamed and wanted him to stop.

"She didn't like it and neither did I,'' he said. "It wasn't my idea. It was something we had both spoken about.'' Stancliffe also denied defence assertions that he liked to push his fist up Dill's vagina.

Regarding the cigarette burning incident, Stancliffe said they had been discussing the "degrees and types of pain'' they had experienced.

"I told her I had experienced a type of mental pain that was greater than any physical pain I had ever experienced.

"She told me that she didn't feel physical pain...I was smoking at the time and I chucked the cigarette toward her leg to see whether she would jump. It didn't touch her. She didn't move.

"She encouraged me to go on. I didn't think she was serious so I did it again and I put the cigarette on the inner part of her thigh toward her knee briefly. She did not react. I was a little surprised. She said do it again so I did.'' Although Dill had taken an overdose of Advil and Tylenol and ended up in the hospital, Stancliffe said that he did not visit her for the first week of her stay. He said he did not know she was in hospital and only visited her there one day before she was discharged.

Initially, Stancliffe denied there was any connection between the mental and physical abuse in the relationship and her overdose.

Later he said he had invited her to live with him after she recovered from the overdose because he was "sorry generally for the way things were going'' and wanted to make the relationship work.

The trial continues today in Supreme Court before Chief Justice the Hon. Mr.

Justice Ward.

Mr. Delroy Duncan and Mr. Juan Woolfe appear for the defence while Peter DeJulio and Charlene Scott appear for the Crown.