Fed up with Bermuda?s limited dating scene, one local man has appealed for help to an agony aunt on a Canadian paper ? and suffered a tongue lashing for his pains.

Signed ?A Catch, Devonshire, Bermuda? the 38-year-old divorcee laments he can?t find a suitable wife despite being and ?educated, nice, athletic and extraordinarily handsome man?.

The London Free Press?s freelance relationship troubleshooter Christine West starts off reassuringly, pointing out it?s not his fault women can?t commit, before delivering a flurry of verbal blows.

She writes: ?Just because you are educated, nice and extraordinarily handsome doesn?t mean you are not a loser. Could it be that your intellect comes across as pompous, your niceness translates as neediness? Perhaps you?re too self-involved and vain.?

She rebuts his claims that his divorced state is to blame by pointing out plenty of people with broken marriages are dating. Warming to her theme she writes: ?The opposite sex can smell desperation a mile away. And frankly, your letter reeks of it. What happened to trying to find a girlfriend or even an enjoyable night out with female companionship? Get your ego in check, take a look at your own contribution to your failures and slow down.?