Dear Carla: My husband has a good career and is doing well financially. When we got married, although I didn’t want to, he asked me to stop working and become a stay-at-home mom. Now that our children are in elementary school, I returned to work despite him not wanting me to.

Last year he was promoted at work and I was proud of him for what he achieved, but now I am upset with my husband because he has been offered yet another career opportunity and he is considering accepting it. This time, he will be required to move out of state. Because of his line of work, once he moves he will become mobile so he thinks it’s best that I remain here with the children and we commute to him twice a month. I think this is too much to ask of me and I told my husband I think he is being selfish. We have a good life here and need for nothing so I don’t see why he seems never satisfied professionally. I feel he should have moved all over the place while he was single ... why wait until he’s well into his marriage. I love him dearly but I’ve told him that if he leaves it may be the demise of our relationship. Do you agree? — LOSING MY HUSBAND

Dear Losing: Funny how some situations people complain about, others would do anything to be in! Your husband is obviously a go-getter and his hard word is not going unnoticed. I think you are being a little hasty and should be a bit more open-minded and supportive of him. Instead of just writing the situation off, sit down with your husband and discuss timelines. Give yourselves a reasonable amount of time to test the situation and see how all of you fare. Discuss what would be ideal during the holidays and see how it all works out. Your husband has afforded you a good life so I think it would be selfish of you to give up because things aren’t in your favour. Don’t get me wrong, I see your point, but I think in order to reach a happy medium you guys have to meet in the middle. All the best to you.

Dear Carla: My child’s best friend is always at my house spending the night. I treat him as if he is one of my own. The last time he stayed over he made a mistake and damaged my iPad. I told his mother and she just brushed it off. She apologised but did not offer to repair it. I am a single mother just like her and I think that she should have made an effort to compensate me for the damage her son caused. I told my son that in light of what happened his friend will not be sleeping over for awhile and of course he is upset with me. I don’t want to hurt him but I can’t afford accidents like these again. Am I overreacting? — CRACKED SCREEN

Dear Cracked Screen: Yes you are overreacting. Big time. My daughter’s friend damaged my brand new laptop once and it hasn’t been used since. What I did do however, was let my daughter know that she should not be expected to use any of my electronic devices while her friends are over. Don’t ban the child. Limit access to electronics.

Dear Carla: I have a teenage daughter and I think that she is considering having sex. I ask her all the time if she is interested in boys in that way but she says no. However I came across an e-mail exchange between her and a boy and he is asking her to consider it. While she didn’t say yes she didn’t say no either. I’ve always told her that there is nothing that she can’t tell me so I’m disappointed that she has not discussed her potential interest with me. I don’t want to say anything to her because I don’t want her to know I saw the e-mail but I feel we have to have this discussion. What should I do? — I FEEL LIKE A SNOOP

Dear Feel Like a Snoop: There’s no need for you to tell her what you saw. Instead initiate a general conversation and explore where her mind is. Ask her open ended, non-accusatory questions and listen to what she has to say. Use this an opportunity to remind her about safe sex and ways to prevent contracting STDs and becoming pregnant. Do not let her know you saw the e-mail ... she may not trust you again after that.