Dear Sir,

In today’s fast-paced, often unforgiving world, where the intensity of social and digital interactions can have profound effects on mental and emotional wellbeing, the need for self-awareness and self-care has never been more critical.

Sadly, as we witness the rise of online attacks and a seemingly increasing eagerness to tear down others’ character, the concept of self-love and the importance of uplifting oneself often get overshadowed by the vitriol surrounding us. Even more disturbing is how individuals who manage to survive these attacks and emerge with resilience are sometimes met with criticism or scorn for not succumbing to the cruelty.

It is increasingly apparent that many people are suffering from a lack of self-awareness, which often stems from the traumas they have endured throughout their lives. This lack of understanding, combined with constant external negative feedback, creates a dangerous cycle of low self-esteem. We are witnessing, tragically, the effects of this all too often in the form of self-harm, substance abuse and suicide. According to recent reports, the rates of suicide have escalated, particularly among those who feel marginalised, unheard or unloved. Behind these devastating losses lie deeper issues: trauma, lack of affirming relationships and an inability to see one’s inherent worth.

There is something powerful and profoundly healing in the practice of self-affirmation. The act of reaffirming one’s worth, regardless of the opinions of others, builds resilience and nurtures a sense of inner peace that is crucial for survival in a world that often seems intent on dragging people down. The journey towards building self-love involves not only personal reflection but also a commitment to practise kindness, patience and understanding towards oneself. It’s a commitment to celebrate the victories, no matter how small, and to acknowledge one’s own worth — regardless of societal validation or lack thereof.

The Bible offers profound wisdom in this regard. In Matthew 22:39, it clearly states, “Love your neighbour as yourself." This timeless command is not just about the importance of caring for others but also about understanding that self-love is the foundation of love for others. You cannot give what you do not have. Moreover, 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 reminds us that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, underscoring the necessity of self-care as a means of respecting the sacredness of life.

The Bible also speaks out against self-harm and suicide. In John 10:10, Jesus tells us, “I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” Suicide, as an act of despair, contradicts this divine promise. When we are faced with trials and suffering, we are called to seek hope and healing, not destruction. It is essential for society to support individuals who struggle with mental health challenges, to provide them with the tools and care they need to thrive. Each life is precious, and each person deserves the opportunity to find hope and purpose.

As a community, we must take it upon ourselves to foster an environment of encouragement, affirmation, and mental wellbeing. We need to promote the importance of self-care, self-empowerment, and self-awareness — starting with the acknowledgement that we are all deserving of love, both from others and ourselves. We must uplift rather than tear down, be gentle rather than judgmental and, most importantly, advocate for those who cannot find their voice in a world that is often harsh.

In conclusion, we must be mindful of the impact our words and actions have on others. It is crucial that we champion self-love, not only as a means of individual wellbeing, but as a collective responsibility to ensure the survival and flourishing of every member of our society. By prioritising self-awareness, self-care and the intentional building of self-esteem, we can create a culture of compassion and understanding that can ultimately reduce the heartbreaking toll that suicide and mental health crises take on our communities.

SHERVONNE CASH HOLLIS

Hamilton Parish