Dear Carla,

One of my closest friends has a very sexy father. Although we have never been in any sort of intimate relationship me and her father are extremely attracted to each other. He has asked me to consider sleeping with him and I want to, but I know my friend would not approve. I mentioned it to her as a joke once and she got upset so I dropped the subject. But the truth is I want to. I told him that although I want to I do not want to alienate her because she means a lot to me. He says I am being sensitive and we are adults. What should I do?

WANNA

Dear Wanna,

If you are both consenting adults I really don’t see the big deal. If you want to go ahead. Just don’t tell her. And if you do the deed with him just be prepared that you might lose her friendship if she was ever to find out.

Dear Carla,

I can’t understand why my ex is so bitter. He left me and is now supposedly happy so I don’t know why he has to be so verbally abusive. I have to deal with him somewhat because we have a daughter together, but outside of her well being I do not communicate with him for anything. And when I do he’s calling me names and being abusive. It’s to the point that I no longer wish to communicate with him at all but have to for the sake of our child but I don’t want him out of her life. This is so childish to me.

FED UP

Dear Fed Up,

It sounds to me like he’s not as happy as he’s portraying to be. It sounds like he may be fighting his demons regarding your relationship. Although he’s mistreating you must keep the best interest of your daughter at the fore. And don’t react to him. He wants that. Take the high road and hopefully this will pass.

Dear Carla,

My boyfriend’s insecurities are driving me insane. He questions everything I do and is constantly accusing me of messing around although I am not. It’s now to a point where it’s turning me off. My friends say he’s acting this way because he’s cheating on me but I really don’t think so. I just want to live with him in peace and happiness but the accusations are turning me off big time.

NOT A CHEATER

Dear Not A Cheater,

Experience has taught me when a person is continually accusing you of infidelity it’s because they are or have been cheating themselves. It’s not always the case but is in more cases than not.

You say that you don’t think he’s cheating then I would suggest you sit down and tell him how his actions are affecting you. Hopefully this will lead to change.

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