Dear Carla: I’ve recently turned 29. I’m not married and I don’t have any kids. I’m struggling to take care of myself right now but I keep wondering if I am ever going to find Mr Right? I live in the hood and the men here just seem to be about wanting to sleep with me and nothing more. I don’t want any part of that. I feel like I’m getting old and life will pass me by. What’s wrong with me? —WILL I?

Dear Will I: You are still so young and have so much life ahead of you. I think that you are stressing yourself out for nothing. I applaud your honesty; you admitted that can barely take care of yourself so why on earth would you even be contemplating becoming a mom? Don’t do it! Motherhood is a challenge, much less single parenthood so trust me when I tell you, you are blessed.

As far as the men in your neighbourhood, they are not the only ones in the world so look outside of your circle. You are lucky because you live in America. Have you considered online dating? I know it isn’t an easy fix but there have been many dating successes. Just make sure you don’t get catfished!

Dear Carla: Is it a big deal if your significant other does not ‘like’ your pictures or comments on Facebook but always does so on other people’s pages? — WANNA KNOW

Dear Wanna Know: I hear couples complain about this all the time. As much as I love social media I really think couples should think twice before adding each other on Facebook, especially if one is more outgoing than the other. It can lead to nothing but a bunch of unnecessary headaches. The virtual world and real life are two totally different things and I think some people lose sight of that.

Dear Carla: What do you do when your best friend’s husband is always checking you out, flirting etc? Do you tell her, or do you tell him you’re going to tell her and see if he stops? I just feel it’s not going to make a difference to her if I tell her. — WHAT TO DO?

Dear What to do: I would talk to him and let him know that if his behaviour continues you will let his wife know. And then tell her if it does. I would also document the dates, times and locations of his inappropriateness. I would also suggest that you avoid circumstances where you have to be near him in one-on-one situations. Prevention is better than cure. If you decide to tell her, be careful though. You may ruin your friendship since you said it may not make a difference to her. She may end up blaming you.

Dear Carla: I have a friend who is negative all the time. If it’s hot she complains, but then would turn around and complain if it’s too cold. She is a good person, but a drag to be around. Our other friends notice it too. Should I distance myself from her? I feel I need an antidepressant after an outing with her. — READY TO JUMP

Dear Ready to Jump: Stop being mean! She can’t be that bad, can she? She probably means no harm. It may be how she was raised. Some people see the light as half empty while others will never envision it half-full. I know I switched the saying up a bit but you catch my drift. Mention it to her with examples, because she may not realise how annoying she is. Don’t cut her off. A true friend would not do that.