Dear Carla: A friend of mine has been married for a couple of years after being with her boyfriend so over ten years. They have three children together.

Although she is happy, many of us (her friends) know that her husband is cheating on her. This is a fact, not speculation. While she is aware of his past infidelities, she has no clue about what he is doing now. We feel she got married just so that she could say that he was because he has always been this way.

She now thinks he’s changed and we know differently. While we don’t want to hurt her, should we tell her or should we stay out of it? —CONCERNED FRIENDS

Dear Concerned Friends: I am one of those ‘tell me the truth so that I know what I am dealing with’ people so I would want to know but I would recommend that all of you think long and hard before you say anything to her.

Think about all of the ramifications of your actions. You will not only be hurting her, but potentially her children as well. What if their family breaks up? Do you want that on your head?

Will she even leave him because you know there are some women out there who want to believe whatever their man is telling them, despite the possibility that he could very well be lying?

Have you considered that your actions may backfire on you and she cuts you guys off as friends? I think you need to take all of these things into consideration before you tell her. If you do decide to tell her, please make sure you have tangible evidence and not third hand information because that simply does not make sense.

Dear Carla: I have a co-worker who looks great everyday but her breath smells horrible. I have tried to tell her in so many ways about it but I can’t bring myself to do it. I really don’t want to hurt her feelings. Help me please. —HOLDING MY NOSE

Dear Holding: There is no easy way around it. Just tell her but be tactful. She could have a periodontal issue which is causing her breath to smell. She could be so used to it and can’t smell it herself. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.

Dear Carla: My boyfriend and I broke up and I am hurting badly. We just could not see eye to eye about anything.

He seemed to be caught up in what people always had to say about me which really got on my nerves.

I love him but have not spoken to him in a while. Should I reach out to him or should I just accept that we are over? — DEVASTATED

Dear Devastated: That is a question that can only be answered by you. You have to follow your heart. Weigh the good with the bad and see what you come up with.

Sometimes we are so blinded by love that we cannot see things for what they are. Perhaps the break-up is a blessing and really an opportunity for you to have a new beginning.

If I was you, I would not call. If you mean that much to him, he will reach out to you. Never forget that what is meant to be, will be.

Dear Carla: I am at the end of my rope being a single parent. My children’s father never comes around or calls.

I love my children but I am starting to be resentful of the fact that I have to raise them alone. How do you do it? —WANNA BE FREE

Dear Free: Don’t think about it, just do it. It gets easier as they get older. You didn’t say how old your children are but if they are old enough to do some things for themselves, let them instead of you trying to do it all.

It may not be done to your standards, but with time they will master the task. Do you have a support system such as grandparents or godparents who can take them and give you a break?

Every mom needs time to herself. Sometimes I wash clothes at six in the morning just so that I can have peace.

Raising children is not easy but trust me when I tell you, if you stick with it, one day they will be thankful for all that you have done. Hang in there!