Dear Carla: It is no secret on Facebook that my boyfriend and I are a couple, although our profiles are not connected. I notice that every post he makes, one particular girl always hits “like”.

I know it’s the cyberworld, but he told me before that she had a crush on him in the past. I’ve said nothing to him. Instead I’ve just sit back and observed. There is no open interaction with them, but who knows what happens in the inbox. I trust him, but I don’t put anything past these females nowadays. Do I sound insecure? Should I say something to him? — WATCHING

Dear Watching: Yes, you do sound insecure, but not necessarily unreasonable considering their history. I would not say anything to him just yet, just keep watching. If you can look on her page, and see if he is as active over there? Is he commenting on her posts and/or pictures? Is he being respectful? Be a quiet observer. Do not overreact. Do not speculate. We all know many affairs have culminated from inappropriate social media usage, but you cannot assume anything. Give it another week or so before you say anything to him. Or you could always unfriend him. I sometimes think being your other half’s friend on Facebook can be detrimental to one’s relationship.

Dear Carla: I have a crush on a guy but I’m afraid to say anything to him as I was raised with the belief that it is unladylike for a woman to be the aggressor. I’ve never met my dream guy in person, and I don’t think our paths will ever cross unless deliberately done on my part, but I just can’t bring myself to do it. What should I do? — SHY

Dear Shy: You snooze, you lose. Those antiquated ways of thinking are long over! Create a subtle opportunity and seize it. Time waits for no one, and if you don’t at least meet him, someone else will!

Dear Carla: What do you do when your best friend betrays you? I told my friend a secret and little did she know she was the only person I told. So imagine my surprise when I heard it a few weeks later. I am angry and disappointed in her. I haven’t said anything to her because the argument would probably lead to the end of our friendship, and I don’t want that. But I need to get this off my chest sooner, rather than later. — DON’T WANNA FIGHT

Dear Don’t Wanna: Why does it have to end up in an argument? Simply tell her how you feel and why. Give her the opportunity to explain herself (there really isn’t any justification, but hey) and then be totally honest with her about how her betrayal left you feeling. If you are true friends, everything will be okay. There may be some estrangement for a little while but then things will return to normal. Trust me, I’ve been there ... on both sides of the coin.

Dear Carla: I love my husband. We have been married for almost nine years. I have never cheated on him and I don’t believe he has ever cheated on me. However, I feel our sex life is boring and want to spice it up a bit. I do not wish to introduce any third parties into our relationship, just add a little pizazz. How do I broach this with him without hurting his feelings, or him thinking that someone is showing me new things? I’m yearning for a new life once the lights go off! — WANT AN ADVENTURE

Dear Want: I wouldn’t have a discussion with him as that could potentially hurt his ego. I would just introduce new things into the mix and sit back and watch his reaction. While he may be bewildered by where this “new you” came from, if done tastefully, and respectfully (by not offending him) I think he would embrace the spice with open arms. But don’t just make it about sex. Re-evaluate what you guys do on a day-to-day basis. Are you still intimate? Do you date? If you have children, it’s quite easy to forget about yourselves. Make sure you carve out time for each other with no distractions. Go spend a night at a hotel if you can afford to. Get your mom to watch the children. Take romantic walks. Reconnect and get to know each other again. It’ll all lead to that spiciness you yearn for so badly.