Dear Annie: I am 34, and my wife is 24. We’ve been married for two years, and I am the happiest man alive. She is everything you could ask for in a wife and lover, except for one thing.My wife is a nudist. We have a rather private backyard and a pool, so she just hops in the pool in the buff with never a concern that someone might see her. I had only met her family on two occasions before we wed, but when they came to visit, they all went swimming in the nude (her father, mother and brother). I was somewhat taken aback, but figured, “when in Rome”.

However, a UPS driver delivered a package the other day, and my wife answered the door wearing panties and an open blouse. She wasn’t wearing a bra, and she has a fabulous figure. When I said this was a little inappropriate, her answer was, “He’s old enough to be my father.”

Last week, she called me at work and asked if I could come home early as she wanted me to meet her brother’s best friend. When I got home, they were all swimming in the nude. When my wife got out of the pool, I can tell you that her brother’s friend was not looking at her like a sister.

I don’t think she is promiscuous, but how can she treat her body so trivially? She has an advanced degree, a wonderful job and is very religious. Am I just an old fogey? — Bradenton, Florida.Dear Bradenton: Not at all. Your wife may be a nudist, but she is also an exhibitionist. She enjoys going without clothes and likes others to see her that way. Insist, as a sign of respect for you, that she cover up when non-relatives are present, especially when she answers the door, for heaven’s sake. She could get into serious trouble doing that, no matter how old the deliveryman is>

Dear Annie: <$>My sister’s best friend died last spring. My sister has known the best friend’s live-in boyfriend for 15 years. In September, they took a trip together, and by October, they were engaged. They married in Hawaii two weeks ago, but don’t plan to live together for nearly a year, because they each have their own home and it will take time to consolidate living quarters. Once that’s done, they will have a reception for family and friends.This is her second marriage and his first. Both of them are in their 50s. What is the protocol as to gifts? — Perplexed SisterDear Perplexed: The same as for any other newlyweds, regardless of their living circumstances — you wish them well and send a gift. If their combined homes mean they don’t need anything, you can send a bottle of wine, a gift certificate to a restaurant or theatre, a donation to their favourite charity or anything else you think they might enjoB>

Dear Annie: <$>Your advice to “Wishing I Never Had an Office Romance” was dead wrong. She made a terrible mistake by divorcing her husband and marrying “Hal,” who has been ill, but now she wants to be back with her ex. She has 18 years and some children invested in her ex-husband and only two years with Hal. I believe she owes her family much more than she owes her new husband. I also think her ex would respect her if she corrects her mistake while she has the chance, rather than live to be a miserable old woman knowing she let her family get away. Hal will survive. <\m> Believe in Forgiveness and Family

Dear Believe: You weren’t the only reader who disagreed, but we think this woman needs to grow up and take responsibility for her decisions. She shouldn’t toss away her current marriage vows because, oops, she changed her mind. Again. She needs to earn her way to maturity or her choices are meaningless.